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Say More, Save a Life: Suicide Prevention Tips for Individuals to Help Themselves or Someone Else

Talking about suicide is very important if you are worried about someone who may be struggling, or you feel suicidal. Discussing suicide does not make it more likely to happen. Showing you care helps reduce the risk of suicide.

If you are worried about someone who may be feeling suicidal or you are having suicidal thoughts, consider these tips.

You can also register for our upcoming webinar, “Say more, save a life” on September 29, 2023.

How you can help someone who may be feeling suicidal

Having an open, supportive conversation can be a lifeline for a person who’s thinking about ending their life.

Don’t be afraid to be direct.

You might say, “I’m concerned about you, have you had thoughts about harming yourself?” The person may be relieved to talk about it. Try to stay calm and not seem too shocked. Do not be judgmental. Accept that their feelings are real and let them know you care.

Be a good listener.

Pay attention and take them seriously. Make eye contact and don’t interrupt. Be alert for any reasons they give for wanting to live. When they’re finished, ask questions to ensure you understand what they said. Repeat what you heard, including anything they mentioned about what makes their life worth living.

Encourage and help them to seek support.

Tell them they deserve support and the most important thing they can do is speak to someone. You can say, “I know there are hotlines with trained counselors you can talk to confidentially. Would you like me to stay with you while you contact one?” Ask them if they have a plan. It may be scary to talk about, but a detailed plan contributes to a higher risk. Even if they don’t have a plan, take all talk of suicide seriously.

Follow these tips to help someone get support

  • Offer to text or call 988, the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, together.
  • Call or text 988 yourself if the person is unwilling to.
  • Call 911 if there is an immediate risk of harm and tell the operator you need support for a mental health crisis.
  • Stay with them until they are connected to help.

If you are having suicidal thoughts

You are not alone. People from all walks of life have had suicidal thoughts at some point in their lives. While the pain may seem overwhelming and permanent, remember that crises are usually temporary. Give yourself the time necessary to allow things to change and the pain to subside.

Five steps to follow if you are feeling suicidal

  1. Promise not to do anything right now. Thoughts and actions are two different things—your suicidal thoughts do not have to become a reality. Give yourself some distance between thoughts and actions.
  2. Avoid drugs and alcohol. Suicidal thoughts can become more intense if you have taken drugs or alcohol.
  3. Make your home safe. Remove things you could use to hurt yourself, such as pills, knives, razors, or firearms. If you can’t do that, go to a place where you feel safe.
  4. Do not let fear, shame or embarrassment prevent you from seeking help. The first step in coping with suicidal thoughts and feelings is sharing them with someone you trust, (i.e., a family member, friend, therapist, clergy member or an experienced helpline counselor).
  5. Have hope. People DO get through this. Even people who feel as badly as you do survive these feelings. No matter what you are experiencing, give yourself time to move through it, and don’t try to go it alone.

Additional emotional support resources

For more on suicide prevention, visit our website for September Suicide Prevention Awareness Month, MagellanHealthcare.com/Prevent-Suicide, and be sure to check out the suicide prevention tip sheets and awareness campaign toolkit.

You can also register for our upcoming webinar, “Say more, save a life” on September 29, 2023.




Creating Conditions for Thriving Individuals and Organizations: A Q&A with Magellan Federal’s Performance Coaches

Human connection is critical to improving performance and overall wellbeing in a sustainable way. This topic is the focus of the upcoming Magellan Federal webinar on Wednesday, July 19th. Leaders are encouraged to join Magellan Federal’s cognitive performance coaches for the webinar, Human Connection: Creating Conditions for Thriving Individuals & Organizations, to understand the indicators of thriving conditions, how connection drives those conditions, and learn strategies to help you implement them in your daily life.

Event panelists for this informative webinar included Dr. Jon Metzler, Senior Director of Human Performance; E. Kruise, Cognitive Performance Specialist; and Meg Helf, Cognitive Performance Specialist.

Read the Q&A below for a few insights from our experts on human connection and wellbeing.

Q: Why do we need human connection? What are the benefits?

E. Kruise: Our brains are literally wired to connect and need connection for survival. Our brains will alert us when our need for connection is threatened. When we experience social pain our brains fire in the same way as when we experience physical pain, alerting us of the threat of disconnection. Just as pain alerts us when we are physically injured. When we are experiencing disconnection, we move into self-preservation mode and become self-focused; we are more likely in this mode to perceive others and the world around as threatening. As a result, we reinforce our feelings of disconnection. Furthermore, when we feel lonely, our sleep is impacted, our health is impacted. Loneliness increases our odds of an early death more than obesity, excessive drinking, or smoking 15 cigarettes a day. When we feel connected or a sense of belonging, we not only improve our own personal well-being and performance, but we also increase group cohesion, creativity, innovation, and the well-being and performance of the entire team.

Q: What are a few ways to create conditions for thriving individuals?

Meg Helf:

  • Self-awareness of our mindsets and how our bodies operate is a first step in understanding that other people, with different backgrounds and upbringings, hold different mindsets, and their bodies may have learned to operate differently. This deep inner self-work takes time.
  • At a baseline, prioritizing a culture of connection. Creating a sense of belonging by truly seeing each other. We can do this by approaching others with patience, curiosity, generosity, and vulnerability.
  • Model Humility and Curiosity – Demonstrate situational humility. Identify and share where you have gaps in knowledge, skills, or abilities. Share your areas of development and plan. Ask for help. Ask a lot of questions about others’ challenges, ideas, concerns, and feedback.
  • Encourage and praise Input and Initiative – Acknowledge and appreciate questions, ideas, concerns, or challenges shared by people. Encourage everyone to share. Praise an individual’s willingness to assess and then act independently on tasks or projects.
  • Provide vision and the “why” – Paint a clear picture of what success looks like. Emphasize purpose, what’s at stake, why it matters, and for whom. When people are able to connect their values and purpose to the task, goal, or project, we see an increase in motivation. Keep the purpose top of mind, discuss, and ask for clarity if uncertain.
  • Seek and provide effective feedback – Provide caring, direct, and honest feedback in a timely and consistent manner. Ask for caring, direct, and honest feedback and model effectively accepting that feedback. This demonstrates that we care about each other’s success and believe in their abilities.

Q: What are the signs that there is a thriving organizational condition within the workplace?

Kruise:

  • People value other’s unique interests, skill sets and abilities. In turn, people feel valued and a sense of belonging. They are empowered to bring their full authentic self.
  • People take risks because they are not afraid to fail. Failure is only an opportunity to grow, get better, produce a stronger solution, etc.
  • People speak up, share, and challenge each other.
  • People listen to and tune into others, not just what they are saying, but also how others are feeling.
  • People are taking initiative, proactive, present in the moment, and emotionally interested in their tasks.

Q: In May, the U.S. Surgeon General issued an advisory calling loneliness, isolation, and lack of connection a public health crisis calling it a “Epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation.” Do you agree or disagree that this is a public health crisis? Why?

Helf: Absolutely! Although the recent COVID pandemic has brought the awareness of isolation and loneliness into the spotlight, levels of social connection have been declining for decades. Our need as social beings is innate and ingrained in our fabric. Our ability to support each other and work together is what has made the advancement of our society possible. Mother Nature has made the bet that the best thing for our brains to do, at any given moment, is to see the world socially.

Unfortunately, various changes within our society have changed the way we develop and maintain relationships, how often we engage in meaningful connections, and with whom. Unlike the sensations of hunger, thirst, and pain, which alert us that our bodies need food, water, or care for injuries, many individuals are not as attuned to or aware of the sensations of social pain. Social pain is a real pain, alerting us that social connection is missing. Social pain literally appears on brain imaging the same as physical pain. Many of us, however, may not intuitively connect what we are feeling to the social disconnection that is driving us. Even if we are aware of our social disconnection, there is still a stigma around loneliness and may be difficult for individuals to discuss openly. Furthermore, when we experience social isolation and loneliness for long periods of time, we see a diminished ability to foster what we need most: deep meaningful connections. Social disconnection causes real changes to our brains and bodies. These changes manifest in our performance, health, cognitive functioning, longevity, and wellbeing. We, as a culture and community, need to prioritize connection at work, in our communities, and at home to reorient to what makes us function at our best: connection to other people.

Q: How does a lack of connectivity negatively impact wellbeing and productivity in the workplace?

Helf: When we don’t feel a true sense of belonging, we hide our authentic selves, we create a filter for our behavior. This impression management leads to hesitation. Instead of sharing ideas and asking questions, our focus is directed toward how we should act based on how we think we will be perceived. A culture of holding back leads to less efficiency, less innovation, and diminished performance.

Kruise: A lack of connection in the workplace increases the likelihood of individuals operating in self-preservation, or at least self-interest, mode. Thus, people are more focused on themselves and more likely to perceive what is going on around them as negative or a threat. This can lead to more conflict, less growth and development, less creativity and innovation, less collaboration, and ultimately performance suffers.

Q: Who would you benefit from attending this upcoming webinar and why?

Jon Metzler: Everyone! The concepts and strategies we discuss can be leveraged at any level of an organization in any environment or at home, with our families, hobbies, sports, activities, and social lives.

Click here to watch the replay of the July 19th webinar.


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13 BIPOC Mental Health Tips for Managing Relationships

Black, Indigenous and People of Color (BIPOC) are at risk of experiencing trauma due to mental and emotional injury from a variety of causes.

If you have experienced such trauma, you may find that your relationships are impacted. Consider these strategies to protect and manage your closest relationships and all that are important to you.

Recognize triggers

We can be triggered by and experience racism.

The impacts can go beyond our own emotional pain and psychological distress to affect our relationships. When we feel triggered, it’s important to:

  • Identify your emotions—Are we feeling surprise, fear, sadness, disgust, anger? It can be helpful to name to our emotions so we can use our knowledge about how to deal with them and seek help if necessary.
  • Recognize the validity of your emotions—We are right to feel the way we do, and we don’t need to waste our energy questioning that. It’s important to take the time to understand how we are feeling.
  • Manage your emotions—When we know what we are feeling, we are in a better place to be in control of how to approach and react to people and situations. This can have beneficial impacts for our relationships.

Set boundaries

With family members and friends, co-workers and even strangers, we must feel safe to be ourselves and feel respected. Setting and sticking to personal boundaries can help. Here’s how you can do it:

  • Prioritize needs—Take the time to think through where you stand, what you can and cannot tolerate, and what makes you feel happy or uncomfortable.
  • Anticipate resistance—Expect that others may not easily understand your boundaries, especially if they have different backgrounds or personalities.
  • Communicate boundaries—Clearly and directly let others know of your boundaries and reiterate them if you feel they are being overstepped.
  • Distance yourself if necessary—If you feel disrespected or have your boundaries crossed repeatedly, it may be time to cut off further interactions to protect your emotional wellbeing.

Practice self-care

We are our own best advocates. It is vitally important that we take time to do the things that make us happy, keep us healthy and give us an outlet from negativity. Not only will our wellbeing improve, but our relationships will also benefit. Try these:

  • Try a delicious new recipe—Taking time to enjoy cooking or baking can be relaxing and fruitful when it’s time to eat!
  • Enjoy quiet time to rest or nap—Sometimes it can be hard to take a break. Take the opportunities as they arise and enjoy every moment!
  • Catch up for a visit or phone call with a loved one—Connecting with others can increase your sense of safety, belonging and security.
  • Read a book or start a hobby—Keep your mind active and engaged in activities that bring you joy.
  • Volunteer—Giving of yourself to help others can improve your confidence, self-esteem and life satisfaction.
  • Get outside for fresh air and exercise—Sunshine and nature have been proven to boost mood.

Additional emotional support resources

For more on BIPOC mental health, visit our website for July BIPOC Mental Health Awareness Month, MagellanHealthcare.com/BIPOC-MH, and be sure to check out the BIPOC mental health tip sheets and awareness campaign toolkit.

You can also check out a recording from our webinar, “BIPOC mental health and relationships.”